I was born in a small town in Eastern North Carolina called New Bern. Most of my early years and Summers were spent in Oriental, NC. It was in Oriental where I gained the nickname “Cookie”. Some of my most fond memories were of my childhood days in Oriental, NC where I spent days playing with relatives and visiting with her grandmother. My grandmother is where I got my middle name and her spirit of loving God and loving others. My grandmother was the closest thing I knew to being a Saint. She cooked for the small community Baptist church for every event, she fed the community, she never used a profane word and she had a strong spirit and Faith in God.
I began to enter the age of pre-adolescence early as I was quite physically developed and was subjected to the stares and advances of older boys and young men. Initially, this was not anything I cared about, and I spent my time and energy excelling in school and pleasing my parents and teachers. I actually was afraid of boys and thought that if I even kissed one, I might get pregnant. I was known for being smart, popular, and funny in school. I was liked by most everyone which was what I thought was important.
I attended Brightwood Elementary while in Silver Spring, MD. At the age of 9, I moved to Macon, Ga and attended J Ellsworth Hall Elementary, Appling B Middle School and Northeast Senior High School. All through school, I was known as one of the smart kids, but I was not considered one of the nerdy kids. In Middle School and High School, I became popular and well-liked by the staff and most of my peers. I served as Class President for two years, on the Student Council, Peer Counselor Advisor, Public Speaking, Cheerleader, Band, Choir, Flag Majorette, Homecoming Queen and Class Speaker at Graduation. Although I was well liked, I just didn’t seem to have the High Self-Esteem and Confidence in myself and was not really happy with the way I looked. It seemed everyone else had something better than me.
At this point, I graduated from High School and left to attend the prestigious Howard University in Washington, DC. Excited to be leaving home and living on my own, I stayed in the Harriet Tubman Quad my first year. Initially, I had thoughts of becoming a Pediatrician or Psychiatrist. However, I decided I was not interested in attending School for another 8-12 years. So, I decided to major in Psychology and have a Minor in both Human Development and Early Childhood Education.
I met my husband while at Howard. We began dating during our sophomore year in College. Initially, it seemed the match was made to last. We had our first child, a girl and got married in the same year. While, I felt some small taste of happiness with being married and having our first child, I was still not sure what I wanted to do with my life or even thinking about what was next for me. I was consumed with making my husband happy and raising my child.
In the midst of being a wife and mother, I worked several jobs but left each one of them after the year to three-year mark. I worked at US News & World Reports in the finance Department for all of 6 months, McDonald’s Corp for all of 2 years, In the Medical field, as a Medical Temporary Staffing Manager, and then at Renaissance Christian Academy for about 1 year and 3 months. Then I was pregnant with my second child. Life was a little more challenging and the marriage was struggling although I was unwilling to see it that way. Child Three, More Struggles, More jobs, New Horizon CDC, Free-lance Trainer, Level II Director for UPO CDC, Maximum Security, Clockwork Security, etc.! Several moves to different residences until one day we were put out of our home and I was alone with all of my children. I had just lost my job and had no money. I left the marriage and spent time with my parents. The difficult and struggling relationships developed with my parents and other family and continued with my husband.
This unhealthy cycle along with the low self-esteem and lack of confidence in myself continued for years. I left another time, and was living in the Washington, DC area and was hit by a Fire Truck!!! I was devastated and life for me changed forever. I wasn’t aware that this was the beginning of the change I had been seeking and been missing in my life. However, I again went back to the marriage.
This time, I trusted God and expressed to my husband the need for true change to happen immediately because I could no longer operate effectively and purposely this way.
Through my strengthened faith and clarity of spirit, I found my voice and was on my personal journey of Self Discovery. I was led to a Certification Program as a Specialty Life Coach. Through this journey, I learned to find myself, love myself, gain Confidence in myself, trust myself and manifest the divine purpose. This has led me to continue to make my next moves, my best moves and not look backwards.
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Monica Olivia Wright-Squires